Are You An "Every Woman"?

by Adaya


Chaka Khan’s song “I’m Every Woman” reminds me of myself because I truly think that “it’s all in me” as do many of my girlfriends who have very busy and demanding lives. But sometimes that all in the “all in me” can be too much. As I move through my everyday life, I try to think of simpler ways to give of myself, keep a little for myself and still be me.

I don’t have all the answers, but here are some tips that that work for me. Maybe they will work for you too.

1. Say “Yes” to yourself. Find ways to do the things that you love. Maybe it’s just quietly reading a book, taking that dance class, or getting in the kitchen and trying out some of those recipes you’ve had for years tucked in the kitchen drawer. Being kind and loving to yourself means that you can be kind and loving to others.

2. Say “No” to others. Do this when you just can’t give anymore of yourself or your time. This is very difficult to do when many of us are so stricken with the disease to please, but I’ve realized that I can’t be all things to all people, all of the time. Sometimes we just have to say no to save ourselves from undue stress and burden.

3. Say “Yes” to receiving help and assistance when needed. Don’t be afraid to delegate or even ask for help whether it’s at work or in the home. We all have people in our lives that love and care for us and will be there for us if we only ask.

4. Say “No” to negativity in all forms. Clean out the cobwebs of fear, frustration, doubt and any forms of stress that will hinder you from being your best self. Thinking more positively will help you to think clearly and make better decisions about being “every woman.”

5. Say “Yes” to shortcuts. Who says that you have to do things the way they have always been done? If there’s a better way to get that work project done, suggest it. If you know how to cut down on time spent in the kitchen, take advantage of it. Try to find ways to streamline the many tasks you have on your plate and enjoy the extra time you find.

So, here’s to you and you being a whole, healthy and happy “every woman”.