So, would you or wouldn't you? The scene in which an ex appears at the church doors just as the minister utters, “Speak now or forever hold your peace,” may be a Hollywood cliché, but it is increasingly common for couples to invite exes to the ceremony, and experts say there’s no need for big-screen dramatics with a little careful planning and consideration.
It’s also important to examine your own reasons for including your ex. Are you co-parents on good terms, for example, or could there be a darker motive behind the invitation?
“Is it because you want to share this special day with someone who you will always care about, or do you want them to feel bad that you are so happy?” asks Tozer.
If that’s the case, you should work through those feelings, especially if there are children involved who might pick up on your negative emotions.
“Keep your focus on making the occasion pleasant for your children, and not your own resentments and frustrations,” says Tessina. “You can work those out in therapy before or after the wedding.”
What do you think? Is there ever a good reason to invite your ex?