A Married Guy's P.O.V.
-by guest blogger, Lamar Tyler
This question comes up from time to time and is only second to the infamous, "how long is too long to date?" I'm talking about how long is too long to be engaged? I have a friend that caps it off at one year and you know what? I’m with him on that. Kinda sorta…. Roughly a year is enough time but before I start reading the comments about I was in school when we got engaged and I wanted to wait and etc. etc. etc. there are exceptions to the rule but in general a solid year is enough time or in that ballpark. If not maybe your man just caved in to the pressure of marriage talk. I saw someone comment on my blog before that “it ain’t an engagement until you have both a ring and a date”. How about that? I thought that statement was the truth.
I was talking to a coworker that said she knows a couple that has been together for seven years then they got engaged but the weddings not planned for another four years or something like that? Sounds suspect to me. If you’re getting engaged you should be able to come up with a date in the foreseeable future. I saw another comment that said if the engagement is lingering on forever then that person is trying to figure out if they really want to be with you and guess what, that should have been done before the two of you got engaged. Do you agree?
What do you say on this one? Is a year too long, not enough or just right? In general terms how long is too long to be engaged and lets hear some of those stories you've lived or heard about.
-Lamar Tyler runs a blog with his wife called BlackandMarriedWithKids. com where they talk about relationships, parenting, product reviews, and current events.